Prescription for Removing Anger

Anger

When a fire breaks out, water is used to extinguish it. If you are standing at that time, then sit down, and if you are sitting, then lie down. In this way you are getting further away from taking revenge. If you are standing it will be easy to run towards the person for taking revenge, but if you sit down, you will become a little lazy to get up and take revenge and if you lie down, you have already come three stages down. Now you will think, that in order to reach the person who has angered you, you will first have to sit up, then stand and finally run to hit. Therefore it is wiser to leave him and let him go! Using water will cool one's temper. After this, think of Allah's punishment. Allah has more power over me than what I have over this person. Just as I am angry at someone today, what if Allah Ta'ala becomes angry with me and has to punish me, then what will I do? Think of Allah, His power and His punishment. When an angry person does not think of these things, it proves that he has become ensnared in the clutches of shaytan, whether he be a Sayyid Sahib, Molvi Sahib, Sufi Sahib or a person giving lectures on Deen. How can it be possible, that being a mo'min, we have forgotten Allah at this moment? We behave like a sufi and cry abundantly, but oh, these tears have no value if we do not have the fear of Allah, even if we shed tears in abundance. In the state of anger, one should think of his position as a servant of his Master, Allah, the most High, who is watching him. We are always hopeful of Allah's mercy upon us, and wish that Allah will forgive our faults on the day of Qiyamah, yet we refuse to show mercy upon His creation. Here we become totally heedless. If anybody troubles us, we do not find rest until and unless we take revenge.

Allamah Abul Qasim Qushairi (RA) says: "A friend of Allah does not take revenge, and one who takes revenge can never be a friend of Allah." One who does not know how to treat Allah's creation with mercy, how can he be hopeful of the mercy of Allah upon himself? Therefore Allah revealed a verse which says that if you want Allah's mercies and forgiveness for yourselves, then forgive the faults of His servants. Even if one commits the same mistake (of getting angry) over and over again, then too he should not lose hope. After one's anger has subsided, he should hasten to make amends.

Prescription for Removing Anger

Hadhrat Hakimul Ummat Moulana Thanwi (RA) prescribed a treatment for a person whose anger always overpowered him. He advised him that when his anger cooled down, he should ask for forgiveness from the one to whom his anger had been directed. He should apologize to him in a gathering, for this method will break his pride. It will also prevent him from losing his temper with people, for fear of being disgraced in an assembly or in public. When anger overpowers one, immediately divert the mind towards one's own faults and shortcomings. Ask ourselves how would we like to be treated by Allah Ta'ala if He were to punish us for our wrong doings? Would we not like that Allah should forgive us? In the same way just as we love to be excused and pardoned, we too should become merciful and forgiving towards those who have wronged us. After all, the person can never have wronged
us to the extent that we have sinned in front of Allah. Yet, what is Allah's treatment towards us? Time and again He has spared us through His benevolence and tolerance, if He so wishes, he can destroy us now! Allah is so kind and tolerant towards us, we are dependant on His forgiveness always, then why should we not
forgive the person?

Moulana Thanwi (RA) has said that one should set aside some time daily, ponder over ones own faults and tell oneself: "I am the worst person on earth." In this way, his pride will be uprooted. Then one will not become angry, because anger is created from pride. At the time of anger one should think in this way that: "I am the worst of all people, then what right do I have to get angry at a person better than myself?" Also, by reciting the following wazifa, one's anger will decrease: Read the whole 'Bismillah ....' twenty one times after every namaz and blow over oneself.
Recite 'Bismillah ....' three times and blow into food and water before eating or drinking. Insha Allah, Allah's mercies will be manifested in just the same way as sand appears shiny and white when the rays of the sun shine upon it. Once the rays disappear, the sand looks dark and black again. By reading this wazifa, the rays of Allah's mercy will descend upon our hearts and cool our anger. For any specific illness or problem, one should choose a name from among Allah's Great Names and recite it abundantly. The effects of these Holy Names will surely affect its reader. Example, if "Ya Salamu" is read on someone with a serious illness, its effect will bring peace and safety from the disease for the sick person. If one is afflicted with poverty, read "Ya Mughni", Allah will bless him with wealth. Similar are the effects of "Ya Rahman" and "Ya Rahim". Recite "Ya Allah, Ya Rahman, Ya Rahim" in abundance to remove anger. However, read only as much as can be tolerated, for sometimes by reading excessively a type of dryness affects the mind, and it may also prove too hot for the brain. Nowadays, people are weak. Thus by too much of wazifa reading, some people have even become insane. Therefore, do not read any wazifa more than can be tolerated, and also take advice in this matter from a spiritual guide. If one cannot manage to read 'Bismillah ....' twenty one times, read it seven times, and if one cannot do that even, read it three times, because nowadays people are too busy and seem to have no time for reading. A businessman said to me that he was so busy, he
does not even have the time to die! I asked him if he thought that the angel of death was going to ask his permission before extracting his soul? If so, then he should tell Malakul Maut (the angel of death) that he was far too busy to die, but even then, whether he be ready for death or not, he will certainly pull his soul out of his body.
Great, great wrestlers have succumbed and fallen down in the face of death. No plan helps to save one from this reality. Also recite 'Ya Arhamar Rahimin' in abundance. The same should also be recited if one is in any difficulty pertaining to debt, children, not being able to get married or even for trouble from enemies. In this case, one
should recite durood shareef at the beginning, then recite 'Ya Arhamar Rahimin' 500 (five hundred) times, and read durood shareef at the end again. Insha Allah one's problems will end within 40 days. It is narrated in a hadith that when a person says 'Ya Arhamar Rahmin', Allah Ta'ala sends an angel to the reciter, to ask what he wants as Allah's special mercies are directed upon him. Thus, by reading this wazifa, one's anger also cools down, while worldly tasks too get accomplished. If one cannot read it 500 (five hundred) times, read only 111 times, and if this also proves
difficult, then read it seventy (70) times only. If not 70 then 7, and if not 7 then 3 and if not 3, then one only. Allah's name is so powerful and great that by reciting it even just once with love and sincerity, one will derive great benefits. What can be more easy, than this. Only a lazy person would refuse to do even this much. Once Hazrat Thanwi (RA) wrote to my spiritual guide, Moulana Abdul Ghani Phoolpuri (RA) that he should recite Darûd-e-Tunjina 70 times, to which Moulana Abdul Ghani Saheb replied that it will be difficult for him as he teaches 16 lessons, and therefore
gets every tired. Hazrat Thanwi (RA) wrote back and advised him to then recite it only 7 times, as for every one durood Allah Ta'ala promises ten in return, so in this manner he will get the reward of 70. Some elders have also prescribed the recitals of "Wal Kazimeenal Ghaiz" 7 times and blow it in water. Drink this water for cooling
one's anger. The reading of durood shareef is also very beneficial against anger. At the time of anger, one should recite "Aûzobilla" in full. However, do first look to your left and right because nowadays people will fight or even kill you for reading "Aûzûbillah" upon their anger. They may think that you are referring to them as a
shaytan by reciting the ta'awuz, whereas it is actually recited in order to seek protection in Allah from the accursed devil. Alas! there is no cure for ignorance. Similarly, "La howla wala quwwata illah billah" too has a special effect. By reading it in abundance one attains taufiq (ability) to make amal (performance of good deeds).
The words "Lahowla" mean that there is no power to stay away from sins, and "wala quwwata" means that there is no power to do good. "Illah-billah" means, except with the help of Allah. Thus, by reciting this wazifa one attains the treasure of "taufiq", for it is a treasure from the treasures of Jannah.